“They say I shouldn’t date anyone darker than a paper bag,” he tells her.

SAY WHAT???   So I read this article from CNN (by way of The Frisky) today.  If the above sentence doesn’t get your attention, than you’re definitely reading the wrong blog.

Anyway, as I read the article, I wasn’t particularly shocked.  I live in California and have a number of Filipino friends and I’ve met a lot of their parents and yes, there is a HUGE amount of racism in that community, primarily amongst the elders.  Funny thing is, I think it’s more of wanting their children to marry White than it is to have them NOT marry Black.  Does that make sense?

My question is this, “is it still the belief that being White or looking Caucasian, gives you an edge in life?”  It got me thinking, times might not have changed as much as we think.  I do believe interracial relationships are more readily accepted than 30 years ago, but has the overall mentality changed?

At times, I get the feeling that even if my marriage is accepted to some people, they secretly think it will fail and my life will be filled with strife. That somehow, I’ve downgraded myself, my life and my kids by marrying outside of my race and in particular, marrying a Black man.

Of course, this isn’t what I think or most of my friends, but I’ve had people ask me straight out, “is it hard”?  Well, yes, marriage is hard.  Kids are hard.   Times are hard.  But overall, my life is easy and that has nothing to do with the color of my husband’s skin, but what’s inside his heart and the hearts of my children.  Maybe I’m just in denial.  Doubtful!

What do you think?  Have we gone from KKK, to Archie Bunker and now to skin tone upgrading?